The Universal Dilemma

A girlfriend told me something quite hilarious last night. She said that she was in a club, chatting to a guy who was telling her that he is planning to marry his girlfriend whom he has been dating for a long time. When my friend ask him why he wants to get married, he said in all macho-ness, "It is time that I marry her and take care of her."

My friend replied, "Why are you licking my ears then?"

Yes, as laughable as that may be, you cannot deny that this is a phenomena happening everywhere. Men and women coming to a stage in their life where they think that it is time to take the "next step" aka. get married and start a family. Their head is telling them that this is the right thing to do but is their heart (and actions) following suit?

On a somewhat related issue, someone sent me a very interesting article on the universal dilemma faced by single women. The article describes why modern women are having trouble finding husbands these days and how it boils down to the fact that they are simply too fussy. It encourages women to mirror men's mate choosing habits instead - by going back to the basics.

When it comes to choosing a wife, most men are only looking out for two basic qualities: A good wife and mother. Never mind if she is ugly, bad in bed or bore the bejeezers out of him; those factors are not essential for a marriage. Simply put, if he is bored in those arenas, he can go out and find entertainment elsewhere (e.g. by licking other girls' ears?)

Whilst I agree with the author that women often have too unrealistic & material expectations of a mate these days, I don't agree that we should just "settle" for a walking dick with a monthly income either. When it comes to affairs of the heart, don't let your head tell you what to do - you have to follow your heart. My friend, Maro, aptly pointed out that you cannot judge (or let your friends judge for you) whether a man will be a good husband by how much (or how little) money, wit or intelligence he have. Judge him by how he makes you feel at the end of the day.

I think we should all take a leaf out of my best friend, The Queen's, book. Her philosophy on how to get and keep a husband is "Be a goddess in the kitchen, and a slut in bed." Haha! Nicely put!