Friends with Benefits

Charlotte: Excuse me. Fuck buddy? What is a fuck buddy? Samantha: Oh, come on. Carrie: A fuck buddy is a guy you probably dated once or twice, but it didn't really go anywhere, but the sex was so great, you sorta of keep him on call. Samantha: He's like dial-a-dick

Pardon my french. This entry is going to be totally uncensored because this topic just ain't cut out to be wholesome. But there is no denying it. The FB arrangement seems to be the ultimate get together phenomenal these days.

Now we all know what a FB is (if not, read the above abstract from Sex & The City again), and I believe most of us (unless you have been hiding under a coconut for the past decade) had at least one FB in your life. If you have not been hiding under a coconut and yet not have a FB, you should consider clubbing...

Sex is never overated. Just as we crave chocolate, fast cars and lying under the tuscan sun, most healthy full-blooded individuals craves simple, no-fuss sex. Since there are so many healthy full-blooded individuals out there with the same craving, hooking up to fulfil it is natural... .and cheap!!

Back before my time, I heard people get together through introduction by friends or while indulging in mutual wholesome activities like chess club or Bible studies. Our current Generation X gets together in clubs. You go to a club, you see someone you like (ok, lust), you bring them home and if you like what you see the next day, you keep them. Sometimes you don't like what you see but you liked what you two did the night before, then you keep them in your pocket for future uses - which is essentially the FB arrangement.

The harsh brutal truth is, a FB is just someone whom you like to shag but not enough to make the bf/gf cut. It is fine and dandy if both parties feels the same way. The danger of it all is when only one person feels that way. Ouch!

Some people abuses the FB arrangement as an excuse to get close to the person he/she likes. Mostly for girls. It is very rare for a guy to turn down non-commital shag invitation from a girl so girls usually use this to get on with the dudes they fancies. But often, she is not ready to handle the emotional repercussions afterwards. It is science that women gets emotionally attached to men through physical intimacy whereas men are able to distinctly separate sex and love. So if he is insists on calling you a cab afterwards while you want to cuddle and talk about your childhood instead, you know you have a serious situation at hand.

So my point is, if you want a FB - be sure you know exactly what it is you want out of him/her and that he/she understands the arrangement as well. I leave you this quote from Alvin Tan from Fridae.com:

"Just remember, fuck buddies should not see or want to see each other for any reason other than sex. If your fuck buddy and you want to have dinner, then it’s no longer a fuck buddy relationship – it’s dating. And if your fuck buddy and you want to do platonic things together, then it’s goodbye fuck buddy and hello friend!"